When you read the title, you may have had a double take, “A mental coach is telling me to accept my negativity? How can that be?” I realize that my statement is counterintuitive but let me show you why accepting your negativity is actually the best thing to do whenever anything unhelpful enters your mind. [...]
Positive life change is just plain hard. If anyone tells you otherwise, they are probably trying to sell you something. But positive life change is possible and decidedly worth the effort. What could be more meaningful, rewarding, and downright joyful than letting go of past liabilities and limitations and becoming the best version of yourself, [...]
It sure is difficult knowing what’s real these days. We have virtual reality, fake news, ChatGPT, deep fakes, the list goes on. What was once obvious and unambiguous to all is now unclear and up for debate by all. This challenge of which apparent reality is actually the reality that we should let guide our [...]
We humans have a powerful and immediate reaction when we perceive a physical threat to our lives; we raise and cross our arms in front of our bodies (imagine someone throwing something at us, even if it’s a pillow). The goal of this instinctive reaction is to protect us from a threat to our lives [...]
At the very core of your life is the “fuel” that powers you forward in your career, avocations, relationships, and everything else that is listed under the category of Life. This fuel is formulated from the values, attitudes, beliefs, perceptions, and emotions that you hold and experience in every aspect of your life. Due to [...]
In my last article, I described the seven forces that make positive life change so difficult. In this article, I will explore how you can overcome those forces and propel yourself toward the person you want to be and the life you want to lead. Positive life change is the Holy Grail for many people. [...]
Changing your life is difficult, very difficult, despite what all of those self-help gurus say. If it wasn’t so hard, most everyone would be the people they want to be and live the lives they want to live. Too often, people blame themselves for their inability to change their lives for the better, seeing weakness [...]
Have you ever had your hot buttons pushed? If you’re a human being and experience emotions at all, you have with almost absolute certainty. Your heart starts pounding, your breathing shortens, adrenaline courses through your veins, you begin to sweat, you feel very strong emotions (usually fear or anger), you feel a strong compulsion to [...]
Our survival instinct developed to protect ourselves from harm and to ensure our survival. This fundamental drive has been wired into our DNA through evolution since we climbed out of the primordial muck more than 530 billion years ago. And it has worked pretty darned well for most of human existence. Unfortunately, times have changed [...]
Anybody who has ever tried to make a significant change in their life (in other words, pretty much everyone) knows how hard it is. Old ways of thinking, feeling, and behaving, no matter how unhealthy they are or unhappy they make you, can become so deeply entrenched in our psyches that positive change seems nearly [...]
