12 03, 2013

Parenting: Is Technology Creating a Family Divide?

By | March 12th, 2013|Categories: Parenting|Tags: , , , , , , , , , , , , |1 Comment

Nowhere is the impact of popular culture and technology on children’s relationships more noticeable than in families. Both influences have contributed to a growing divide between the traditional roles that children and their parents play while, at the same time, blurring those same lines between parents and children. Over the past two decades, children who, [...]

5 03, 2013

Parenting: Is Technology Preventing Two Key Ingredients for Kids’ Relationships?

By | March 5th, 2013|Categories: Parenting|Tags: , , , , , , , , , , |1 Comment

Selflessness and empathy are two of the most important ingredients for children to develop healthy relationships. Selflessness involves the capacity for children to place the concerns of others appropriately ahead of their own. It allows others to sense that, whatever children do, their interests will be considered. Empathy is the ability for children to understand [...]

27 02, 2013

Parenting: Are Online Relationships Healthy for Young People?

By | February 27th, 2013|Categories: Parenting|Tags: , , , , , , , , , , , |1 Comment

More and more these days, young people are establishing and maintaining relationships online. These “cyber” relationships often arise because parents, out of fear for their children’s safety, no longer allow them to be “free range” to congregate in local parks, at malls, and on street corners. The only place that they have permission to “meet [...]

24 02, 2013

Good Parenting Matters!

By | February 24th, 2013|Categories: Parenting|Tags: , , , |0 Comments

This article is a great read that demonstrates that good parenting is really important. Moreover, good parenting can be taught.

10 02, 2013

Parenting: Is Technology Changing the Way Children Develop Relationships?

By | February 10th, 2013|Categories: Parenting|Tags: , , , , , , , , , , , , |2 Comments

Popular culture and technology are redefining the meaning of relationships; what relationships are, how they develop and are maintained, and how many relationships we can have. Popular culture, for example, suggests that love can be found in a few weeks on shows like The Bachelor, real family’s lives mirror shows such as Kate Plus 8 [...]

4 02, 2013

Parenting: How to Raise Mindful Children in a Digital World

By | February 4th, 2013|Categories: Parenting|Tags: , , , , , |2 Comments

In my previous post, I asked the question: “Is technology making your children mindless instead of mindful?” I think it’s safe to say that it is incredibly difficult for children to be mindful, present, and calm in our culture that is now dominated by the constant flow of information. Yet, if you want your children [...]

15 01, 2013

Is Raising Good Decision Makers Parents’ Greatest Challenge?

By | January 15th, 2013|Categories: Parenting|Tags: , , , , , |1 Comment

Good decision making is one of the most powerful skills your children need to learn to as they progress through childhood and transition into adulthood. But I promise you, it is not a skill that will develop readily on its own, particularly in the digital world in which they are growing up. You should teach your children why popular culture and technology can cause them to make poor decisions and guide them in learning how to make good decisions. Making bad decisions. Whenever I speak to a group of young people, I ask how many of them have ever made a bad decision. With complete unanimity and considerable enthusiasm, they all raise their hands. When I then ask whether they will ever make a poor decision in the future, the response is equally fervent. I also ask children why they make less-than-stellar decisions. Their responses include I didn’t stop to think; It seemed like fun at the time; I was bored; Peer pressure; I didn’t consider the consequences; To get back at my parents. Yet when I ask them if the faulty decision was worth it, most usually say, “Not really.” What this means is that there was glitch in their decision-making “program,” somewhere between input, processing, and output, that caused the bad decision. Because children lack experience and perspective, and, as I noted above in my previous post, their prefrontal cortex isn’t fully developed, they tend to make decisions that are egocentric, rash, and short-sighted. This absence of forethought can cause children to not consider all available information, engage in an incomplete cost-benefit analysis, and ignore long-term consequences.

6 01, 2013

Is Technology Creating a Generation of Bad Decision Makers

By | January 6th, 2013|Categories: Parenting|Tags: , , , , , , , , |4 Comments

Decision making is another aspect of children’s thinking that seems to be suffering as a result of the latest technology. This poor decision making is illustrated by events over the last few years involving young people making egregiously bad decisions that involve technology (not to mention the frequent examples occurring in the adult world!). For example, teenagers whose “sexting” to a friend is released in cyberspace, embarrassing or illegal behavior that’s recorded on mobile phones and uploaded onto the Web, and the tragic consequences of cyberbullying. In looking at decision making among children, let me begin with a brief lesson in brain anatomy and functioning. Children start off at a severe disadvantage when it comes to decision making because the prefrontal cortex doesn’t fully develop until well past adolescence. The prefrontal cortex is instrumental to so-called executive functioning, namely, determining good from bad, planning, recognizing future consequences, predicting outcomes, and the ability to suppress socially inappropriate behavior. This means that children begin their lives “behind the curve” when it comes to decision making; their default is to make poor decisions. So, anything that makes bad decision making easier for children to act on just adds insult to injury.

2 01, 2013

Teach Your Children to Single Task, not Multitask

By | January 2nd, 2013|Categories: Parenting|Tags: , , , , , , , , , , |0 Comments

After reading my last post, I hope you’re convinced now that so-called multitasking isn’t what it purports to be and definitely doesn’t do your children any favors in school or anywhere else. So, the next thing to do is to show them (and perhaps yourself) that “single tasking” is a much better way to go. Single tasking is definitely not rocket science, but it may require that your children break some deeply ingrained habits around their use of technology and learn new habits that will enable them to be more productive and efficient. The good news is that, with some commitment and discipline, your children can retrain those habits and, in a relatively short time and with the benefits clear, become comfortable and adept single taskers. Given that single tasking may involve some pretty big changes in your children’s use of technology, I would encourage you to collaborate with them so they have buy into whatever changes you want to implement. The reality is that if they don’t see the value in changing the way they focus, they will resist any efforts you make with them and those efforts will be doomed to fail. Educate your children about what multitasking really is and why it doesn’t work well, especially in their studies. Then, introduce them to single tasking and show them how it can help them in so many ways.

20 12, 2012

Latest News: Third Parenting Book, Your Children are Listening, to Get French Translation

By | December 20th, 2012|Categories: Latest News|Tags: , , |0 Comments

I'm pleased to announce that my third parenting book, Your Children are Listening: Nine Messages They Need to Hear From You, will be translated into French in 2013. This brings to six the different languages that my books have been translated into.