We pursue happiness in America with such passion and purpose. We devote immense amounts of time, effort, energy, and money. Yet, that pursuit seems to be wholly unsatisfying and ineffective, as evidenced by the fact that there exists a ‘happiness-industrial complex’ in which billions of dollars are spent annually on books, lectures, apps, psychotherapy, coaching, [...]
I recently had dinner with a former client whom I had worked with about 15 years ago. Cassie (not her real name) was in her teens then and she is now a grown woman with a great career and about to be married. She asked for my guidance to help her make a major career [...]
I introduced you to the “F&%# it!” attitude in my last post. As I indicated in that post, if you can adopt this somewhat “out there” perspective, you will free yourself to pursue your life without fear or inhibition. But I have to tell you that the “f&%# it!” attitude doesn’t come easily. The fact [...]
In my last post, I introduced you to my notion of “mindblocks,” a portmanteau that plays off of the psychological nature of these issues and the term roadblocks. In this post, I will describe to you the attitude that can help you free yourself from your mindblocks and liberate you to create the life that [...]
Ideally, you should be living in the present while striving for your healthiest goals of, for example, meaning, happiness, love, success, and fulfillment. You should feel joy and inspiration. You should be optimistic and able to participate in thriving relationships. You should find satisfaction in your work, experience warm and loving family and friends, and [...]
...Latin America. Why? Not because they are the wealthiest, are the best educated, feel the safest, or have the most stuff. Instead, because the most significant contributor to happiness is the quality of one's relationships and Latin Americans value relationships immensely.
I’ve been pretty darned restless for about six months now and I just haven’t been able to shake the feeling. I wasn’t sure what to make of this unsettled feeling because I’ve got a really good life. Then, I received an email from one of my best friends who now lives in London (I’ve been [...]
It sure has been a good few decades for happiness. Before, say, the ‘70s, happiness just wasn’t on the radar screens of most people nor had it been a part of the cultural vocabulary in America. Of course, happiness did merit a mention in our Constitution (“life, liberty and the pursuit of…”), so it has [...]
I have a confession: I'm having a "bromance." You may know the term from the movie I Love You, Man; it describes a close, though non-sexual relationship between two men. Yes, my wife knows about and she supports it. My bromance was certainly unexpected. In fact, he (I'll call him Drew) is probably my first [...]
Have you seen the late George Carlin’s riff on “Stuff”? If you haven’t, it is brilliant, hilarious, and it exemplifies so much of what I believe about the over-filled, over-scheduled, over-thought, and over-wrought experiences that we now call life in 21st-century America. I don’t know about you, but I’m tired of it. There is just [...]