6 01, 2010

Parenting: Conditional Love is Good!

By | January 6th, 2010|Categories: Parenting|1 Comment

Note: In my November, 2009 newsletter, Unconditional Love is Bad!, I provoked some strong responses from readers. The main beef that they had was with my notion that parents withdraw their love from their children. Let me clarify this point. I'm not talking about what we as parents feel (of course, we always love our [...]

6 11, 2009

Parenting: Unconditional Love is Bad!

By | November 6th, 2009|Categories: Parenting|3 Comments

The basic idea behind unconditional love seems quite reasonable. You should love your children just for who they are, regardless of what they do. Children shouldn't have to worry whether their actions will cause you to love them less. They should be able to count on your love no matter what. But unconditional love is [...]

2 09, 2009

Parenting: Don’t Praise Your Children!

By | September 2nd, 2009|Categories: Parenting|1 Comment

Please be prepared. I'm going to go on a bit of rant now. I just can't hold it in any longer. I see parents doing this constantly and it's killing me because they know not what they do and they are actually hurting their children's development. What am I referring to? It's praise, that's what [...]

30 07, 2009

Sports/Parenting: Michael Vick: He Paid. Should He Play?

By | July 30th, 2009|Categories: Parenting, Sports|2 Comments

Over the last several weeks, considerable attention and discussion has been directed toward whether Michael Vick, the former NFL quarterback and convicted felon (he served two years for a conviction related to dog fighting) should be allowed to return to the NFL. He has been conditionally reinstated, so his return seems inevitable. Though protests are [...]

8 07, 2009

Parenting: 8 Tips For Dads

By | July 8th, 2009|Categories: Parenting|0 Comments

#1: Take a Hit for the Team In a culture that seems to worship selfishness, as the father, you must be willing to be selfless and make your family your #1 priority. This means putting the needs of your wife and children ahead of your own. If you have to choose between what's best for [...]

13 05, 2009

Parenting: Challenge Your Child

By | May 13th, 2009|Categories: Parenting|2 Comments

We live in a culture in which many parents feel tremendous pressure to "fast forward" their children's development. Unfortunately, in their efforts to speed up their children's development in school, sports, and the performing arts, parents are in danger of setting them up for failure and slowing rather than speeding up their development. By placing [...]

5 03, 2009

Parenting: Frustration: Aaarrgghh!

By | March 5th, 2009|Categories: Parenting|8 Comments

Frustration may be your children's most significant obstacle to achieving their goals. We all have experienced the feeling of frustration when we're not able to do something as we pursue our goals; we feel stuck, we get uptight, and we have difficulty focusing. The best way I can describe the feeling is: AAARRGGHH!! It is [...]

20 01, 2009

Parenting: Fear of Failure Revisited

By | January 20th, 2009|Categories: Parenting|0 Comments

In my very first Prime Family Alert! newsletter published in April of 2005, I discussed the sad epidemic of fear of failure that was rampant in America then.  Well, almost four years later, fear of failure is still the most pervasive and debilitating issue among children I see in my practice and the thousands I [...]

20 11, 2008

Parenting: Expect a Lot of Your Children

By | November 20th, 2008|Categories: Parenting|0 Comments

You should expect a lot of your children. Set the bar high on what you value and make it clear to your children that you expect them to live up to those standards. Expectations communicate to your children what you, well, expect of them. They are standards of behavior grounded in your family’s values to [...]

20 09, 2008

Parenting: Don’t Shut Up Emotions

By | September 20th, 2008|Categories: Parenting|0 Comments

I was all ready to discuss another topic in this issue of Kids & Culture Alert! when I received the following email from a reader the other day: “There is a huge difference between telling a child to ‘suck it up’ and do their homework, and telling them to suck it up when dealing with [...]